The Expert

Probably I’m still far from being an expert on how to deal with hardships but I increased my knowledge by experience quite a bit. 

What I need to do the "Deal with" – My top10

1.God
An intimate relationship with God. He is close to the broken hearted so this is a good time to seek him and spend time in his presence. I would be lost without his care, love, words encouragements and guidance.

2. Friends
one is great, but I believe for something like this, dealing with a break up, I need many more than one friend. I need many ears listening to me over and over again. I need those telling me how stupid he is and others confirming how wonderful he is and also those who are happy to do either one. I need those telling me to forget him as fast as I can, and those who tell me I never will. I need those crying and joking about it. I need even those who make me angry by their insensitive comments.

3.Time
Time is amazing. When I had enough of it (don’t know yet if weeks, months or years) I will be all good again.

4. Tears
They just feel so good as if they would release me for a little while

5. Writing
I do a lot of it and is a wonderful way of reflecting and getting things of my chest, I rather do not even tell my best friends.

6. Sport
or something similar to it. Just gives me a good feeling and makes me happy

7.Sun
Same as Sport

8. People
Being around other people and having something else to focus on

9. Discipline
It had occurred to me before that people being in some kind of painful process are not normal. Certainly I'm not. Thoughts are strange, emotions even worse and many conclusions are just wrong. It takes a lot of discipline to not give in to those thought/emotion based ideas. I'm looking for an example, but they are all together too embarrassing to share

10. Hope

Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. (Psalm 62:5)